Friday, October 30, 2009

gussied up

Hey y'all! Just wanted to let you know I spiced up the ol' blog a bit this afternoon by piddling around with the header. It's a new trick I learned from this handy tutorial -- the perfect activity for a slow Friday! So get your lazy butts out of Google Reader and click over to the real deal to see the pretty new font. (Incidentally, the same font I'm using on the wedding invitations... you'll see a lot of it. Ah well.)

Thursday, October 29, 2009

Our Labor of Love love

If you've been reading this blog for any amount of time, you know that I've got the best folks in the biz photographing our wedding -- Jesse and Whitney at Our Labor of Love! (Sidenote: how awesome is their festive candy corn logo?) They announced yesterday that Matt Miller has officially joined the stable of talented photographers at OLOL.

As expected, Matt's blog had some amazing shots. Thank god he doesn't have that many events in his archive, because I seriously can spend all day looking at things shot by any of the OLOL photographers. In fact, I'd like to share some of my favorite recent pictures from all of them, because they're just so damn good. Let's kick it off with the new guy, shall we?

Here are a few from Matt:

Pretty sweet, no? And then we have Kendrick and David, who shoot as a pair:

(the girl in this shot is one of Jon's coworkers, and both
of these two were college classmates of the photographers!)

I mean...come on. This post is quickly veering toward awesome overkill. But wait, there's more! Here's Heidi's work:

That first dress photo is just KILLER. Oh my lord.

And, last but certainly not least, here are a few I pulled from Jesse & Whit's archive, in case you weren't sure of their brilliance:

If you hadn't seen any pictures by them before, surely now you understand why this is one of the things I am most excited about when it comes to our wedding! I knew from the start that photography was at the top of my list. If you had to prioritize (which you do), what would you want to make sure is totally kickass at your wedding?

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

It's good taste!

Just last week, I got permission to bring in a hundred or so bottles of Cheerwine, my favorite soft drink in the world, to add to the bar selection at our reception venue. Cheerwine also happens to be one of the things that first fixed Jon's attention on me at grad school -- I brought a can to class every morning until my supply ran out, and he remembered it from his North Carolina childhood.

photo by Heidi @ Our Labor of Love

Looks like this couple had the same idea, and took it a step further -- there's orange and grape Nehi too! Perfect for a wedding in the mountains of western N.C. (Also, they have excellent taste in photographers!)

I'm excited to be able to incorporate this family favorite and southern classic into our wedding. Is there a food or beverage that you want to be sure to have at your reception?

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Old-Timey Tuesday: a special guest (with bonus pictures!)

One of the guests at Mom and Dad's wedding was Nancy Pridemore, who taught English, speech, and drama at Kingsport's Dobyns-Bennett High School. My folks were not only high school sweethearts at DB, but also debate partners. Yep. As such, they spent a lot of time under the tutelage of Miss Nancy, as they called her. Here she is, chatting up her former students at the reception:

This is a great picture for many reasons, not the least of which is the fact that Mrs. Pridemore must surely be in the throes of storytelling or very enthusiastic congratulations -- I'd love to know what she was in the middle of saying when this photo was taken!

We kids heard lots about Miss Nancy over the years, and I believe we even met her at a high school reunion or two. Clearly, to have been in touch for decades after the fact, she was very special to my folks. And speaking of high school, this week I'm reaching even further back into the Old-Timey Archive to bring you some photos of little Laura and Jimmy (courtesy of the DB 1966 yearbook) in all their nerdy teenage glory!

Here we have Dad, left, and Mom, second from right, looking studious with their fellow German Club officers. But wait, there's more:

Jimmy and Laura in the Debate Society! And do I detect a hint of foreshadowing in this caption? "Dearly beloved, we are gathered here..." Members of the Debate Society, Jim Poe, Ted Hagan and Larry Penley, listen attentively to Laura Abernathy. After all, Mom and Dad were dating at the time. Clever editors! (Sidenote: Man am I glad my high school yearbook didn't portend anything about my romantic future. Dodged a bullet there! The class below us has literally 6 sets of now-married high-school sweethearts, and I don't think any from our class lasted. Weird! I digress.)

To bring this blog post full-circle, the writing above the photo is Mrs. Pridemore's note to my mama. I know it must have been so special for Mom and Dad to have Miss Nancy at their wedding.

Jon and I only go back as far as graduate school (I don't believe grad-school sweethearts is a valid designation... I think the charm only lasts through college), but we hope to have a few special folks in attendance on our big day as well -- like the people who admitted each of us to our graduate program, making this whole thing possible, and some dear professors and friends from Syracuse. I'll have some former teachers there from as far back as elementary school, too! What is it about teachers?

Monday, October 26, 2009

we have a cake!

Well, we don't have a cake yet... good thing too, because I don't reckon it would taste very good in May, seven months from now. Nevertheless, I'm happy to report that, after way too much cake-sampling, Mom, Jon and I have come to a consensus on our favorite cake-baker. What makes our decision even sweeter is the fact that this bakery gave us the lowest price quote by far. Wahoo!

Bet you're wondering which bakery we chose, right? We settled on Highland Bakery, a Poe family favorite. I like that it is in-town and close by, that it's attached to a monumentally delicious restaurant, and that we have a bit of a history with these folks already. Let's take a walk down memory lane with Highland Bakery's cakes, shall we?

In 2008, Mom turned 60. We threw her a wildly successful surprise party and added a little extra something by springing for a fancy cake that paid homage to her bookworm tendencies:

You may be wondering what that large blob of yellow icing in the background is... well, turns out that Dad's birthday is a week before Mom's (only the year after), so we surprised him with his own cake. Dad's a lawyer by day, but a beekeeper and farmer by pretty much any other time, so we had Karen at Highland Bakery make a beehive cake.

How cute is that? Our only regret with this one is that we didn't consult our brother on what this 59th-birthday cake should say, because he came up with a real zinger that we heard after the fact: You bee next!

Dad indeed did turn 60 the next year, and we got him good with another surprise party, this one luau-themed. One of the guests grew up with Dad in Kingsport, Tenn., and brought along a picture of her and little Jimmy at his fourth birthday party. Crazy! Anyway, since we had started an awesome-cake tradition the previous year, we called on Karen once more. Here's what we came up with, based on Dad's usual weekend attire:

As you can see, Karen and the lovely bakers of HB have been good to us, so I'm excited to have them on board for our wedding. Mom and I had a great time talking to Karen and discussing the possibilities for cake flavors and decorations. I don't think we'll be doing anything too terribly intense in the decor department, but it's good to know that we could if we wanted to!

Right now we still don't know what flavors the cakes will be. I don't think I've had a better red velvet cake anywhere, so if Jon doesn't want that for his groom's cake I might have to incorporate it into the big white cake somewhere. I've still got my eye on spice cake, though, and as soon as I can find some regular mint extract (as opposed to peppermint) in stores, I'm going to whip up some shamrock shake cake to see if that might be an option. The best part is, with Highland Bakery, the possibilities are endless!

Thursday, October 22, 2009

Oh yeah...

I almost forgot to mention that today marks both seven months until our wedding day and the midpoint of our engagement. Pretty cool, huh?

Per usual, the Knot weighed in this morning with what it thinks I need to be doing with my time this month. Decide on bridesmaids dresses, you say? La la la, I crossed that one off about a month and a half ago -- decided on, purchased, delivered!

The Knot: 1, Kathleen: 3 (at least since I started blogging). Muha!

Wedding Spectator no. 3: fancy! (or, happy anniversary to Mary Liz & Meade!)

Exactly four years ago at just about this time of evening, my friend Mary Liz was taking her first spin around the dance floor as a married lady.

As predicted, she was the first among our gang of girlfriends, a unit since junior high school, to take the plunge. She was engaged in May just before she graduated college, and, impressively, married well before Thanksgiving of that same year. I'm still not sure how she and her mom pulled it off so quickly and so well!

As you can tell from Mary Elizabeth's ballgown and long veil, Meade's white tie and tails, and the country club ballroom in the background, this wedding was, as we say down south, fancy. It was the first of its kind that I attended, and although I have been to formal ballroom wedding receptions since, I don't recall any as grand as this one. There must have been at least 300 people there. (Lord knows I tied enough perfectly symmetrical silk-ribbon bows on Mary Liz's wedding programs for at least 500!) It was a family affair, in a lot of ways; most of our parents were in attendance, and the crowd was probably a pretty even split between the generations. Because of that, and because we were all fresh out of college and new to the wedding scene, I think the event had a different feel to it for me than any wedding has since.

We look so young! We're all 22 or 23 in this picture.

I also imagine I was a bit awed and overwhelmed by it all -- black tie dress, the Piedmont Driving Club, all that free booze mixed with parents and high-school ex-boyfriends -- which is the general feeling I get when I think back on the day. It really was almost a fairytale wedding, complete with a horse-drawn carriage whisking the happy couple off to the Four Seasons at the end of the evening.

It's hard to believe it's been four years. Happy anniversary, y'all! You've set an amazing example for the rest of us.

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

does daddy have a shotgun?

As I mentioned the other day, as I perused photos of Bridal Fashion Week Fall 2010 (finally got that cleared up), nothing really jumped out at me. Today, however, something did:

Ummm, so I know there are lots of illusions in fashion, and bridal fashion in particular (illusion netting, straps, sleeves, etc.), but I'm fairly confident in saying that I don't think any bride wants to give off the illusion that she is pregnant if she is not. Tell me I'm not the only one who sees this! The beading, where the drop-waist hits, and the shadow from her arm are all conspiring to make this model look like she's expecting. Let's take a closer look, shall we? Surely it can't be that bad...

Yeah, no, it definitely is. I realize that if you examine it, you can tell that there is a very flat belly between those two hands, but at first glance it still looks like there's a bun in the oven. Maybe it's the maternity/yoga pants-esque gathered band about the hips that's the source of the problem... I'm not sure. Regardless, Watters, I'm gonna go ahead and call this a bridal fail.

*photos from the Fall 2010 dress gallery at
**post title from the Breeders
***no offense intended to any past, current or future pregnant brides!

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Old-Timey Tuesday: Cake!

The cake-cutting picture is probably one of my favorite among wedding shots to look at through the years, because everybody has them -- well, nearly everybody -- and the composition of these photos tends to be pretty standard, allowing for easy comparison. From this picture alone, one can usually get a sense of the formality of the occasion, the setting or decor, the size of the event (from the size of the cake), and, of course, the styles of the day (both in clothing and in cakery).

My parents had a tasteful three-tier cake for their wedding reception at the church, with the top tier lofted on those tiny cake columns. Mama says it was white cake with white icing, which was about all you could get in East Tennessee at the time.

Are these two photogenic or what? Geez.

I particularly like the arbor behind them... I imagine one of the wedding guild ladies moved it in from the closet in the church kitchen to dress up the fellowship hall for the occasion or something. It actually does frame the scene quite nicely.

For the feeding-each-other picture, the cameraman threw composition to the wind and just got up close and personal.

helloooo elbow!

No shenanigans here, just some lovely detail on the cake and Mama's dress. Extreme close-up! WAAAAH!

Monday, October 19, 2009


Yeah, so I tracked down the pictures from the most recent (and most well publicized) Waffle House wedding...

photo by Benjamin Hager for the Gwinnett Daily Post

Did I say I might entertain the idea of a rings-on-waffle photo? Consider that stricken from the record. I think this looks worse than the McNuggets.

rings + food = kinda weird

OK, so I get that newlyweds like to have photos taken of their pretty new rings in artful places and arrangements, and I understand that sometimes the wedding cake/cupcakes/cocktail or some other food or beverage of significance may be included in these kinds of photos. But come on... Chicken McNuggets?

The fry picture might be slightly redeemed if the fries looked like they had been cooked and were thus immediately identifiable, but I'm not sure the McNuggets can be made to look appetizing. I don't care if you met at McDonald's -- there must be more attractive foods that can be photographed somewhere on the menu!

Of course, when the time comes, I might get the urge to plunk my rings down on a Waffle House waffle or set them atop a glass bottle of Cheerwine or Coca-Cola Classic. Who am I to judge?

fashion week schmashion week

Over the weekend, Bridal Fashion Week for Spring 2010* kicked off in New York City. Much like regular fashion week, this is a twice-yearly event -- once in April and once in October. The fact that I've been paying attention to wedding websites long enough to have been blog-bombarded with blurry runway images of white fluffy dresses once already this year tells me that it's been a while since we got engaged.

Fortunately, this time I can just watch the pretty dresses parade on by and not have to worry about snatching one up. I've clicked through some of the galleries and am very happy to report that, so far as I've seen, nothing looks as lovely to me as the dress I've got.

*I'm confused... are they showing looks for next spring or next fall? My dress is cataloged on as Spring 2010, and it's a springy dress from the fashion week last April, but a lot of these collections are being called Spring 2010 as well. Befuddlement reigns! I guess it doesn't matter, really...

Friday, October 16, 2009

My best blogs

Greetings! Sorry for neglecting the blog yesterday -- I was busy at work and then busy at home making these delicious treats for a friend's birthday party that I'm hosting tonight. Can't wait to eat them!

Today I thought I'd share a little blog love and let any of you readers out there in on what my favorite blogs have been as I've been planning and searching online for ideas (and just for shits and giggles, as they say). Some are the usual blogroll suspects, some may not be. Hopefully you'll find a new corner of the interwebs in which to poke around! Here we go...

Our Blog of Love
This is the blog of Our Labor of Love, the brilliant visionaries and wonderful people who will be shooting our wedding next May. I could not be more excited about them! The blog has been a little Smilebooth-heavy of late, but now that summer and vacations are over, Jesse writes that she has lots of wedding posts to catch up on. Bring 'em on.

Picture this: Davina + Daniel = wedding
The subhead says it all: "A wedding photographer's journey to the aisle." This is another photographer's blog, but with a twist: Davina is planning her own 2011 wedding to Daniel, the other half of her photography business, and this blog is a chronicle of that process. Super interesting! To see more of their stunning work, check out Davina and Daniel's website.

Lake Jane
I'm not sure which came first for me, Davina + Daniel or Lake Jane. At any rate, Marie-Eve of Lake Jane just got hitched in August and Davina was her photographer. Both live in Montreal -- maybe it's a sign we should honeymoon there! Marie-Eve's wedding was both beautiful and inspiring, but the blog isn't wedding-centric -- she posts daily about design, food, decorating, and generally lovely things.

Beast Pieces
The blog of letterpress masters Studio On Fire. They do amazing things with paper, ink and old machinery. Basically, I want to be them.

Oh So Beautiful Paper
While we're on the topic of paper, I can't not mention this blog that celebrates all things paper. Gorgeous wedding invitations (achieved through various processes, not just letterpress), calendars, stationery, posters, calling cards, you name it. There's probably some origami on there too. Oh, and Nole, the proprietress of this blog, does lovely giveaways. I just won a sweet 2010 calendar!

Daily Drop Cap
Daily Drop Cap is a project of typographer and illustrator Jessica Hische. I'm actually using one of her new fonts, Buttermilk, on my wedding invitations! The best part about the daily drop cap is that you're free to use them for your blog or any other non-commercial endeavor. Wahoo!

Snippet & Ink
Kathryn of Snippet & Ink apparently grew up down the street from one of my bridesmaids/best friends from college. Pretty cool, huh? Anyway, she probably didn't invent the ubiquitous "inspiration board," but she is surely the perfecter of the form.

Style Me Pretty
This is like wedding blog central command, or your daily overdose of wedding design awesomeness/ridiculousness. There are at least four new posts every day, each of them full of beautiful photographs. They recently launched the Style Circle, an online community for brides-to-be/wedding obsessors, which has a handy inspiration board tool.

Once Wed
This website started as a listing service for brides looking to sell their used (or extra) wedding dresses and has rapidly grown into another wedding-junkie paradise, similar to Style Me Pretty. Emily, who runs it, lives in Atlanta -- ATL represent! They also post many times a day and showcase excellent DIY projects from awesome folks like Anna Bond at Rifle Paper Co.

Speaking of Anna Bond, she makes the loveliest illustrated invitations. That's pretty much all you need to know about her.

We Met in a Bar
Until recently, this blog was all about wedding stuff... and then the girl writing it got married, so now it's more focused on homey things. Still, I loved her wedding -- especially her hairdo for the big day! So pretty! Check her archives for wedding stuff and stick around for some musings on apartments and design and whatnot.

This blog is totally comprehensive and wonderful in every way. They write about furniture, accessories, flowers, art, indie crafts, paper goods, ceramics, textiles, etc. etc. etc. Editor Grace Bonney got married in the spring and was just featured in the latest Martha Stewart Weddings, but even if you have zero interest in the world of weddings, d*s has something for you. The before & after section is not to be missed!

Alright, that's it for now. Have at it!

Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Honeymoon in __________

Having been to all these weddings lately, I've had a bunch of folks asking me for details on my own wedding -- especially the honeymoon. Where are you going? they ask.

Well... I don't know. I don't think I've ever had a vision of a particular sort of honeymoon in my head ever, and I doubt if Jon has either. So far, we've found it easier to plan by process of elimination. Here's a list of places we've ruled out:
  • all-inclusive Caribbean or Mexican resorts
  • otherwise tropical/beachy places
  • cruise ships
  • anyplace where it will be approaching winter in May (i.e. South America, other southern hemisphere destinations)
  • anyplace that necessitates more than about 10 hours of air travel
  • anyplace where the currency is the pound
  • anyplace with highs below 60 degrees in May
Jon doesn't want to go to a country where one of us has been before, but due to my year abroad, I've visited many major cities in western Europe, and that would rule out most places that fall within an acceptable temperature range. So, I've conceded that we can skip Germany, since it's the country I know best, but we are still entertaining places in France that are not Paris, as well as places in Italy that are not Florence, Rome, or Venice. Pretty scenery/sights and cultural events are imperative. Oh, and Jon likes places on bodies of water.

One of our first ideas was to honeymoon in Montreal -- since they speak French there, it's sort of a taste of Europe without that pesky 6-hour time difference. I always wanted to go there when we were in school in Syracuse since it's relatively close by but I never got around to it, so this would be a good chance. Also, the first little trip Jon and I took together was to Canada -- Kingston, Ontario, to be precise -- so returning to that country and spending the $20 Canadian I still carry in my wallet from that excursion would be sort of nice. However, Montreal and Quebec City are pretty damn far north and perilously close to being too chilly still in late May.

Looking a little further south and forgoing the domestic option (for now) takes us back across the pond to Europe. The other day the south of France (Marseilles) was sounding good, as was southern Italy (Naples, etc.). Today the focus has become Croatia, where, Jon discovered, you can lodge in lighthouses up and down the Adriatic coast. Also, their currency is the kuna, not the Euro, so the exchange rate is much better for poor writers like ourselves. One of my good friends from study abroad went to Croatia on a vacation once and has raved about it ever since, so I have a feeling that will hold top position for a while.

So, to summarize, here are the contenders at this point:
  • Croatia
  • Italy (not the usual spots)
  • South of France
  • Montreal/Quebec City
  • Greece
There's always the domestic honeymoon option, which we haven't given much thought yet, but may well once we get a better handle on how much we will have to spend on this little trip. We could also hold off and wait till we have more money/vacation time... but that seems unlikely at the moment.

We've been researching a bit, but there is such a wide world out there it's hard to know where to begin -- even with whole regions of the globe stricken from the list. Where would you go on your honeymoon -- or, if you're married, where did you go -- and how would/did you choose?

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Old-Timey Tuesday: invitations!

A month or so ago when Mom and I were discussing wording for the wedding invitations, she said it didn't much matter to her how I wanted to do it. In fact, she said, she and Dad had phrased their invitations in a somewhat unorthodox manner:

Laura Susan Abernathy
James McMillan Poe
are happy to announce
our approaching marriage
Our parents
Mr. and Mrs. Fred Robert Abernathy
Dr. and Mrs. James Edgar Poe
invite you to share in our happiness
on Saturday, the second of September
nineteen hundred and seventy-two
at two o'clock
Colonial Heights Presbyterian Church
Kingsport, Tennessee

and afterward at the reception

Church Fellowship Hall

I love this picture. Not really sure why, but I do. It's just so... 1972.
(Not that I was there. Something about the colors, I guess.)

I am working on laying out the text for my invitations at the moment, so now would probably be the appropriate time to revisit wording options, no? Up to now I think we've just been thinking we'd stick with the traditional formal style, but if there's a way to make it less stuffy without it being too casual, it's worth pondering.

What do you think -- are invitations that start with the bride's parents requesting the hono(u)r of your presence lame, or do you prefer to stick to tradition?

Monday, October 12, 2009

the most intense bouquet ever

I took the most recent issue of Weddings Unveiled with me to Chicago so I'd have something to peruse as I sat at the airport. There was a lovely spread featuring the bouquet creations of Atlanta floral/event designer extraordinaire Amy Osaba, and among them I saw the most intense bouquet I had ever happened across:

picture from weddings unveiled magazine

Are those... antlers? Yes, yes they are. Good for one of those rustic events, I suppose, but mighty dangerous if you're planning to toss it to your friends!

(In all seriousness, Amy Osaba does amazing work. The inclusion of antlers in a wedding bouquet is a testament to her creativity... I just thought it was pretty intense and worthy of mention.)

Sunday, October 11, 2009

on attending and planning weddings

D arius and Vanessa's wedding in Chicago yesterday was my last one of the year, and the second-to-last wedding I'll have gone to before my own next May. With each wedding I attend, I get more excited about my own -- and, happily, more assured of the decisions we've made in planning it thus far.

I think at the heart of it is that each of these celebrations is a reflection of the couple getting married, and each wedding is different. One of my goals for our wedding is that the ceremony and reception (and rehearsal dinner, and whatever else) are a joyful expression of our relationships with each other and with our friends and families. It's a tall order, but I'm feeling pretty good about it -- my family has a long history of throwing awesome parties. (It's true -- ask anyone!)

Though I've done most of my work on the reception to this point, I'm especially looking forward to planing the ceremony and starting our pre-marriage meetings with the pastor at church. I grew up in a different church than we're marrying in and have many former youth pastors with whom I remain close, but Jon and I decided that, rather than having two officiants, we'd go with one from the church where our wedding will be and where I am now a member. This pastor and I know one another's names, but beyond one preliminary wedding meeting, I haven't much spoken with him one-on-one. That being the case, Jon and I will both be starting out on equal ground with our officiant -- it's not my friend or my minister, but someone who will get to know us both at the same time.

Now that I'll be home in Atlanta without taking off on the weekends for about the next two months, I've got plans to work on lots of wedding-related projects: readings research, music scouting, invitation design, guestbook-making, etc. I'll keep you posted all along the way!

p.s. - I wrote this while on a plane home from Chicago to Atlanta! Crazy!
p.p.s. - the stunning drop-cap is once again courtesy of Jessica Hische

Friday, October 9, 2009


Lately I've developed a much deeper appreciation of the word "scatterbrained." Quite literally, my mind is going about 15 different directions at once. It's like I'm in one of those carny dollar booths where you just grab at as much as you can as the bills whip around you, but in the end you come up with less than you hoped or expected...

Fortunately, one cause of my scatteredness will no longer be an issue after this weekend -- I'm traveling to my last wedding of the year tonight, and once I return on Sunday I'll be home in Atlanta for a solid two months before I cut town again. Glory!

This wedding caps a run of three out-of-town weddings in four weeks. Of course, I should be thankful that the six total weddings I've been to this year have been relatively spread out until this point -- this weekend's bride and groom have been to five weddings in the past eight weeks, and one of them has been IN most of them. The bride was maid of honor just last weekend in a wedding at the same venue with the same colors as her wedding -- and that newlywed is serving as a bridesmaid for her tomorrow. I think my head might explode.

All of this is to say that I'll be (mentally) back in full force next week, and I'll have had some time to process all these lovely events I've been to. You may hear more from me today if I decide to lug my laptop along to try out the in-flight wireless, but if not, happy Friday to all!

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

If I won the lottery...

I'd buy one of these pretty initial/character necklaces for each of my bridesmaids:

Until then, I'll just keep wishing Jenny Lu will start producing these in sterling silver or something more affordable...whaddya say, Jenny?

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Old-Timey Tuesday: groomswear

We've been focusing a lot on the ladies so far on Old-Timey Tuesday, so today I want to let Dad and the groomsmen have their moment in the spotlight.

The men in the wedding party all sported what I imagine was the early-'70s spin on a traditional morning suit -- striped trousers and a diagonal-striped tie under a 3/4-length jacket. I mentioned before that Dad's getup had got sort of a Teutonic/high-school-theater-costume look to it, and here you can see for yourself:

It's a little mod about the ankles as well with the slim-cut pants, no? Oh, the Seventies. What an amusing decade you are! Let's see how the Abernathy men pulled it off:

I had realized before that Grandpa Fred is wearing the suit as well, but sure enough he is. Uncle Bob (far left) carries off the look most convincingly -- even with four buttons, and he is not a tall man. It must be the Marine in him. Uncle Steve (far right) is rocking some serious sideburns, and Mike (second from right) just looks goofy. I had that exact same hair on top of my head from about sixth through eighth grades, and I didn't understand where it came from until I saw a picture of Mike in high school. I blame him completely for my awkward years.

We haven't nailed down what Jon and the guys will be wearing yet, but if I have any say in the matter (which I do), they won't have any more than two buttons on their tuxedo jackets. I think they'll probably go solid, basic black, straight tie instead of bowtie, and black vests. (Colored vests remind me too much of prom... anybody else?) Classic, timeless, etc.

Anyway, when I got out my folks' wedding album again, I thought dad's outfit was such a hoot. It's nothing compared to my Uncle Dave's wedding outfit though -- a classic ruffled tux, in either white or powder blue. AMAZING. What do you think the blue ruffled tuxedo of our time will be when the next generation looks back at wedding pictures from this decade?

Monday, October 5, 2009

odds & ends from the weekend

I don't really have an excuse this time for disappearing over the weekend... though I guess that having spent the two weekends previous out of town and plans to go to one more out-of-town wedding this coming weekend is explanation enough. I had a lot to get done!

Friday night Jon and I saw an excellent bluegrass show at a small club in Decatur, which was a great start to the weekend. Once we got home, we decided to get a jump on Saturday's erranding marathon and went through our kitchen drawers and cabinets to sort out the extra plates and utensils and tchotchkes that we have duplicates of or don't need now that we're living together. Having taken inventory of the kitchen, I also did a quick scan of the what-to-register-for list in Real Simple Weddings and the book Williams-Sonoma gave us to see what could be crossed off.

Saturday started with a drop-off at the new Goodwill store in Buckhead, after which we headed up to my parents' house. Jon and my dad excavated Grandpa's old record player for us to bring home while I went through the guest list with Mom to make sure everyone who needed a guest had a guest counted and all had been correctly categorized. Our current count? 361 bodies, 220 invitations. There will be some cuts, but we're going to leave that until around the holidays. I know what I need to know to be able to order the paper, so we should be good for now.

We left Mom and Dad's and went to the mall, where our first stop was Chick-fil-A at the food court. (Looking back on the past week later that afternoon, I realized that this was the fifth day in a row I had eaten Chick-fil-A for a meal. Thank God they're closed on Sunday or my streak could have been longer! I don't think I've done that since high school...) With bellies full of fried deliciousness, we looped through Williams-Sonoma, Macy's, and Crate and Barrel to check out appliances, feel towels, and look at glassware, all for the purpose of beefing up our registries. Unbelievably, it seems this will take some effort! I'm sure once we properly set our minds on it we'll come up with enough things for the list. I'm planning to take full advantage of the free month of that I got for doing a survey on Consumerist!

After the mall, we made a run to the recycling center and then went scouting for a something I thought might make a good bridesmaids gift... turned out that wasn't the case, so I'm glad we went to check it out. The rest of the weekend was mainly taken up by football, baseball, church and work, so I'll spare you the play-by-play.

I don't have much to report today otherwise -- at least that I'm at leisure to share here. I've got some kickass gift ideas in the works, but many of the giftees follow my blog, and I wouldn't want to ruin any surprises!

[Oh, and lest I forget, the lovely drop-cap that kicks off this post is from Jessica Hische's latest blog. So cool! Yes, I know it has a border around it, but I didn't want to turn off my borders...Fun fact: she designed the font I chose for our invitations!]

Friday, October 2, 2009

another awesome video...

This one comes to us from the Flashdance, a collaboration of which our brilliant photographers are a part. We briefly considered bringing on the DJ component of the Flashdance as well, but were unable to commit due to budgetary constraints. I feel kinda bad about that... and now I feel even worse because they've recruited another friend who shoots awesome 8mm films! If only I could have a full-on Flashdance wedding. Check out their latest addition here.

Part of my brain thinks if only we had another x thousand dollars... but that's a slippery slope. That's why people set budgets in the first place, right? To avoid the inevitable adding-up of lovely unnecessaries like paper lanterns and 8mm wedding films. Sigh.

I guess at this point I'll have to be satisfied with being a 1/3-Flashdance wedding. (Or I guess now it would be 1/4.) Maybe having Jesse & Whit on board will give me some leverage later on!

Thursday, October 1, 2009

The big reveal!

Well, sorta. This is the post wherein I finally show y'all my pretty dress, among other things, via my first official INSPIRATION BOARD. If you've had any dalliances with wedding blogs, you've probably seen these -- they're basically collages of stolen pictures that give brides-to-be and their legion of vendors an aspirational idea of overall event design. One of the ├╝ber-popular wedding blogs, Style Me Pretty, came out with a handy tool to assist in the making of said collages, and once they were sufficiently advanced as to allow me to incorporate some of my own photos, I hopped on the bandwagon.


But first, a word about inspiration boards. Often you see them arranged around one's wedding colors or theme. This board is not, as I have neither. It's based on a few things that I already have (wedding dress, bridesmaids dresses, favors, font, photographer, venue) and incorporates many more that I hope will be a part of the wedding, or things that at least have a look to them that I like. There's really no common thread other than that.

Jon, go away. I mean it. Scram!


OK. If you're not Jon, you can click here. (And if you want to see more details on my dress, you can click here and see some close-ups. JON IF YOU CLICK EITHER OF THOSE LINKS I WILL END YOU. That is all.)

So, readers, what do you think? I know my inspiration board isn't terribly thematic, but it sure looks like the makings of a good party, doesn't it?